Speaking when you should not

One of the things that I learned over the years is the one of worse things you can do is say something when you are angry. Sometimes when angry you can say something that you really do not mean, because you want to hurt the other person the way that they have hurt you. Most of the time this works out to be a mistake. A mistake that is hard to forgive and make a person lose trust in you.

Another time you should not speak is when you are drunk. The difference between talking when angry and drunk is that when we are drunk we tend to tell things that are true but kept quiet for the time being.

I am all for being honest and telling things like it is. I also understand that there is a time when things should go unsaid and that we should sometimes hold our tongue. Sometimes we allow things that need saying to go unsaid for too long and allow issues to build up and hurt relationships when we release the hurt that we have carried for a long time. I try not to allow things to build up and say things before too much time lapses.

If there is an issue to confront, I try to do it right away while the issue is fresh instead of waiting months or years and letting it build up and then laying a list of shit out at someone of all the ways they have offended me or made me mad. I like to lay it on the carpet right away if possible. I do not believe in bullshitting people and I do not like for people to bullshit me.

 

When are some other times to you think that we say things at the wrong time?

How do you handle confrontations?