Women are interesting

Let me begin by saying that this post is not a dig at women. I am sure that all women are different; it’s just that recently I have discovered that they are interesting.

This year I turned 41 years old. I have never had close women friendships, at least not in almost 15 years, and then I only had one. I grew up running behind my brother and found men to be much easier for me to socialize with and understand. I had heard that women could be a trip but never really experienced it much, at least not enough for it to matter. I just knew that I would hate to be a man, because I have always thought that women were high maintenance. I am a low maintenance type of women and never clicked well with women growing up. I never understood the shoes, make-up and hair thing. It was always just easier for me to hang around with men; I can take a crude joke and tell quite a few myself. I tend to enjoy life and don’t get offended very often.

Almost four years ago, I moved onto the street in which I currently live and I made friends with a couple of my female neighbors. I really had no idea that women can be so petty over very small things. I like to call things to the carpet when I have an issue with someone. I have found that some women will just stop talking to you and not bother to tell you why, and treat you rudely when they see you. I have also found that just because they grow older doesn’t mean that they stop this behavior, which came as rather a surprise to me. I was under the belief that we outgrow most of our child-like behavior, but I am finding this is not true. Believe me, I understand that this applies to men also, just seems to be in a different way.

I have also found out that women can be very demanding with their friendships. I operate under the understanding that we are all human and we make mistakes, have bad days, and judge to quickly sometimes. I try to forgive people for their humanness, sometimes too often. Even though I am very straightforward, I believe that I have to try to accept people for who they are if I am to expect them to except me for who I am. I don’t try to change my friends, I try to understand my friends and accept them for who they are. I believe that if the good in a person outweighs the bad, then I can put up with the bad, no one is perfect. I have come to learn that most people do not operate in this fashion. While I tolerate the things about them that I do not like, because I feel they are overall worth knowing. Sometimes I feel that I am not given the same allowances.

Over the past month, I have found that, it is not allowable for me to not listen to someone else’s problems or agree with what they believe. I have also found that it is not allowed for me to say something about someone’s business, however small, even though that person has told my business many times. I have come to understand that to some of the people who I thought were friends, I am always supposed to be in the giving position. I truly hold myself responsible for this; I am a giver and many times give long after I should have cut a person off. I like to live an agreeable life, one where we can all get along as best possible. I am a true Cancer in this sense; I mother people and do far too much for them. In trying to get along with others, I sometimes allow people to use me. This is something that my sister can’t stand about me. The very people who are upset with me are people my sister told me to leave alone a long time ago, but I did not listen. She pointed out to me that they were users, but I just didn’t want to believe it.

I have a hard time understanding using other people and taking when you don’t need. I try to make sure that I am giving as much as you are giving me and usually I don’t mind giving more, but even I too get tired. Sometimes I want to be alone, to myself, by myself. Does this mean that I can’t have friends? I am most definitely choosing the wrong friends. My sister has told me since I moved over here that my neighbors and I are too intimate, but I just thought that she was antisocial. I have come to understand what she means; I have decided that in the future to put a limit on the relationships that I develop with my neighbors, it makes living around them much easier. When things go wrong in any situation, I tend to analyze myself and try to understand what I did wrong. Maybe sometimes I haven’t actually done anything wrong. I have decided that it doesn’t always have to be my fault and maybe sometimes people are asking and expecting too much of me. I am human also and I have decided in my humanness, I will move on and not let them worry me.

In what ways do you find women or people in general interesting?

In what ways do people ask or expect too much of you?

In what ways do you ask or expec

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